You’re Not Listening: What You’re Missing and Why It Matters

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you? This life-changing book will transform your conversations and your relationships forever’BRILLIANT’ Chris Evans, Virgin Radio Breakfast ShowWhen was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you? This life-changing book will transform your conversations forever. At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation. On social media, we shape our personal narratives. At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians. We’re not listening. And no one is listening to us.Now more than ever, we need to listen to those around us. New York Times contributor Kate Murphy draws on countless conversations she has had with everyone from priests to CIA interrogators, focus group moderators to bartenders, her great-great aunt to her friend’s toddler, to show how only by listening well can we truly connect with others. Listening has the potential to transform our relationships and our working lives, improve our self-knowledge, and increase our creativity and happiness. While it may take some effort, it’s a skill that can be learnt and perfected. When all we crave is to understand and be understood, You’re Not Listening shows us how.* With a new afterword by the author *’This book couldn’t be more timely. Inspiringly profound…smart and playful’ Observer’I’ll be adopting Murphy’s advice’ Sunday Times, Style

Journalist Kate Murphy is a New York Times contributor whose eclectic and much-shared pieces have explored an extraordinary range of topics including health, technology, science, design, art, business, finance, fashion, dining, travel, and real estate. Kate is known for her fresh and accessible way of explaining complex subjects, particularly the science behind social interactions, helping readers understand why people behave the way they do.